So if you’re new here, you should know most of my daily interaction with the public occurs in Patterson Park. And I’m not happy about it.
I’ll bet you are thinking I’m yearning for more adult interaction. That I’m starved for more interaction with people. That I’m some lonely stay at home mom desperate to get out more.
Not a chance.
I see more than enough human behavior in that Park on a daily basis. And sadly, most of it is appalling.
People are gross, and dirty, and foul-mouthed and rude. . .Even by my own sub-par standards.
I’d just rather be left alone.
There are unsupervised kids, wading in the boat lake to capture and torment frogs and turtles. They raid birds’ nests for eggs. Adults scream and spit and throw trash in the Lake. Rude dogs run rampant, their owners oblivious. And the bicycles? Do not get me started.
Jesus, we all know half the time I’m guilty of being a royal douchebucket and I still feel like these losers are an entirely different species.
I’m certain I walk through that Park (or the grocery store) with my mouth agape at the diversity of bad behavior I witness. But by far the thing I am most saddened by is the way people speak. Specifically, the way they speak to children.
I’m well aware parents are human beings and we can’t all be expected to be some kind of surely high on oxytocin overload Michelle Duggar who speaks in a sweet soft voice about children practicing self-control and such simple shit 24/7.
We are not perfect and neither are our offspring.
But as imperfect as we may be, we are still responsible for setting an example for our children.
And when I hear adults needlessly screaming at children, using profanity, barking orders without the use of common courtesy words like please or thank you, when I see adults only criticizing harshly and not praising the good things children do, I get a little wild.
And yes, that means you too teachers who bring classrooms of children into the park everyday and do NOTHING but scream at them. I see you every day. I understand you have a lot of responsibility and a large group of rambunctious children but does that mean you can’t take the time to say please or thank you after you bark commands at them? If my child were in your class, I would be OUT OF MY MIND angry at they way you were speaking to him.
How can you expect to raise a compassionate, considerate, polite child by NOT acting compassionately, considerately or politely to them?
If I can control my foul-mouthed, poorly mannered self around my own child and others, I’m certain I’m not asking too much of anyone else.
We can do better. I know we can.