That’s when I ran into the neighbor at the end of the street.
She has a son almost exactly one month younger than Mac and a 3 week old. (Yes, you read that correctly she has children about 16 months apart).
We were chatting for a few minutes, when she mentioned she wouldn’t be returning to work and she suggested we make some plans for Mac and her son to play together.
We have known her and her husband on a superficial level for years. And I can’t think of one reason to dislike them. (Shocking, I realize). And from what I can tell based on my limited knowledge, they would probably be a great bunch to add to our circle of friends. (Which frankly, after having Mac, has shrunk to the pets in our house and my in-laws. It’s a sad state of affairs.)
Yet, I’m not sure I’m ready for play date commitments.
I know Mac would probably love it. And I’m sure it would be good for him developmentally. I’m still just not sure.
Maybe part of it is I’m simply unclear about the actual logistics and protocol for play dates?
When you have toddlers, do both parents stay for the entire play date or does one get to run to the corner bar to slam shots for 45 minutes?
What happens if I discover we aren’t really compatible? What if she hates my snark and the fact that I eat all of the cookies when I’m invited for playtime? What if I find out she plans to lock her kid under the stairs for non-compliant behavior?
What if I just don’t effing feel like leaving the house at scheduled play date time? Do I have to be an adult and go or can I just blame it on the kid and say he’s having a rough day? Exactly how many times can I get away with this before she hates me?
I fear it’s going to mushroom. . .Will other parents on the block will want in too and I’ll get stuck buying holiday and birthday presents for every kid on the block?
What do you actually DO with two 16-month olds during a play date? Let’s face it, it’s an in-between stage. They aren’t ready to tackle the playground on their own but they aren’t completely helpless. . .I’m guessing they are at an age where they are most suited to share snot. . .which is not appropriate for any outing referred to as a “date” as far as I’m concerned.
This is going to require so much extra cleaning on my part isn’t it?
If I’m just going over to her place to hang out can I just wear whatever I slept in?
How awkward is it going to be when I have to say her name? I’ve been talking to her for at least 7 years and I’m not sure it it’s Christina, Christine, Kristen. . .This alone makes me want to avoid a play date at all costs.
Although. . .Cold weather is coming and I’m sure our walks and outdoor adventures are going to be limited. . .So the idea of having another kid do the work of tiring Mac out for nap time, is appealing – at least in theory.
Thoughts or stories to share?